Welcome to LYINX
LYINX is an organisation set up with
the best interest of our children at heart.
We believe that children grow up more confident, stable and self assured when they grow up a solid part of both their mum and dads lives. It’s heartbreaking to see the crimes committed by some parents just out of spite, for the financial reward or because it makes them feel powerful. The fact is its child abuse and far to easy to commit.
Often it is the father that has the most trouble coping with the family law system. Trying to hold down a full time job whilst their mind is on other things, paying hefty child support and rarely seeing their children whilst they know their children would love to spend more time with them or the little time they do get with their children they are told that they are a naughty daddy amongst other things. No wonder so many men commit suicide each year.
The Australian Bureau of Statistics found that:
In 2005 approx 1680 men in Australia committed suicide. On average, that is over 4 men per day.
In 2005, over 20% of deaths in males aged between 20 and 34 were by suicide.
This is far too high. LYINX believes a majority of these suicides would be as a direct result of the pressures of separation, family court proceedings and/or child support. This is where LYINX wants to make a difference. We believe that if parents are better informed, have one place where they can always turn too to find the information they are looking for, then this will go along way to help in these areas;
1] Reduce the number of suicides in Australia associated with Family Court proceedings.
2] Educate parents better before a possible solicitor fuelled war breaks out between parents where everyone loses, except the solicitors of course.
3] Empower fathers and guide them to make the right choices whilst in Family Court proceedings so they don’t act impulsively and destroy any hope of their children having their father in their lives.
4] Reduce domestic violance against woman by educating fathers and giving them a positive direction to focus on.
Have a read of this poem. Sometimes the smallest things can make the biggest difference.
Rain from Nowhere
His cattle didn’t get a bid, they were fairly bloody poor,
What was he going to do? He couldn’t feed them anymore,
The dams were all but dry, hay was thirteen bucks a bale,
Last month’s talk of rain was just a fairytale,
His credit had run out, no chance to pay what’s owed,
Bad thoughts ran through his head as he drove down Gully Road.
“Geez, great grandad bought the place back in 1898,
“Now I’m such a useless bastard, I’ll have to shut the gate.
“Can’t support my wife and kids, not like dad and those before,
“Crikey, Grandma kept it going while Pop fought in the war.”
With depression now his master, he abandoned what was right,
There’s no place in life for failures, he’d end it all tonight.
There were still some things to do, he’d have to shoot the cattle first,
Of all the jobs he’d ever done, that would be the worst.
He’d have a shower, watch the news, then they’d all sit down for tea
Read his kids a bedtime story, watch some more TV,
Kiss his wife goodnight, say he was off to shoot some roos
Then in a paddock far away he’d blow away the blues.
But he drove in the gate and stopped – as he always had
To check the roadside mailbox – and found a letter from his Dad.
Now his dad was not a writer, Mum did all the cards and mail
But he knew the writing from the notebooks that he’d kept from cattle sales,
He sensed the nature of its contents, felt moisture in his eyes,
Just the fact his dad had written was enough to make him cry.
“Son, I know it’s bloody tough, it’s a cruel and twisted game,
“This life upon the land when you’re screaming out for rain,
“There’s no candle in the darkness, not a single speck of light
“But don’t let the demon get you, you have to do what’s right,
“I don’t know what’s in your head but push the bad thoughts well away
“See, you’ll always have your family at the back end of the day
“You have to talk to someone, and yes I know I rarely did
“But you have to think about Fiona and think about the kids.
“I’m worried about you son, you haven’t rung for quite a while,
“I know the road you’re on ‘cause I’ve walked every bloody mile.
“The date? December 7 back in 1983,
“Behind the shed I had the shotgun rested in the brigalow tree.
“See, I’d borrowed way too much to buy the Johnson place
“Then it didn’t rain for years and we got bombed by interest rates,
“The bank was at the door, I didn’t think I had a choice,
“I began to squeeze the trigger – that’s when I heard your voice.
“You said ‘Where are you Daddy? It’s time to play our game’
“’ I’ve got Squatter all set up, we might get General Rain.’
“It really was that close, you’re the one that stopped me son,
“And you’re the one that taught me there’s no answer in a gun.
“Just remember people love you, good friends won’t let you down.
“Look, you might have to swallow pride and take that job in town,
“Just ’til things come good, son, you’ve always got a choice
“And when you get this letter ring me, ’cause I’d love to hear your voice.”
Well he cried and laughed and shook his head then put the truck in gear,
Shut his eyes and hugged his dad in a vision that was clear,
Dropped the cattle at the yards, put the truck away
Filled the troughs the best he could and fed his last ten bales of hay.
Then he strode towards the homestead, shoulders back and head held high,
He still knew the road was tough but there was purpose in his eye.
He called his wife and children, who’d lived through all his pain,
Hugs said more than words – he’d come back to them again,
They talked of silver linings, how good times always follow bad,
Then he walked towards the phone, picked it up and rang his Dad.
And while the kids set up the Squatter, he hugged his wife again,
Then they heard the roll of thunder and they smelt the smell of rain.
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LYINX currently has support group meetings which are held fortnightly. For more information on these meetings go to our Group Meetings link. If you would like to put your hand up to help with a support group in your area, then please contact LYINX. It is very rewarding, great friendships can be made and you will be supported by LYINX and your local community because we all love to see someone having a go. If you can help then please put your hand up. We need you, fathers need you and children need their fathers. Help your “mates” through the toughest time of their lives and it could be one of the most rewarding things you ever do.
LYINX is currently seeking Government funding. In order for us to expand our community service to other parts of Australia it is obvious that we will need funding. We will keep you posted on our progress.
If your business would like to sponsor your local support group then please contact LYINX. If you are able to make a donation, this would be greatly appreciated, click here. Every cent counts.
We all look for words of inspiration when times are tough so LYINX has put down a few to encourage and empower you no matter what your circumstances are.
Faith, you can do very little with it, but you can do nothing without it.
A great person is one that has not lost the heart of a child.
There is one thing worse than falling; that is not getting up again.
Frustration is good, it slowly turns to vision. Act on vision, not frustration.
Successful negotiations are 70% preparation, 20% implementation and 10% acting.
All battles are first won and lost in the mind.
If you are defeated mentally, then what do you have left to win?
Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours.
A true friend never gets in the way unless you are going down.
Love will find a way through paths where wolves fear to prey.
The person who questions opinion is wise, the person who quarrels with facts is a fool.
We hope LYINX will be able to help you in some way.
Take care,
Troy Paton
Founder of LYINX
I would like to show you the success the LYINX website has had in the last 11 weeks from the 1st October 2007 till 12th June 2008
→ on Average we have had 3300 hits/week.
→ 334 mothers and fathers have clicked through to purchase one of the books above.
→ I have been inundated with emails and phone calls from frustrated parents.
→ More professional counsellers are directing their male clients towards our support groups.
-- LYINX is now a member of the Child Support Assosiation for the benefit of our members
This has been a fantastic response and I thank you kindly for your support.
Many people email me with questions every week. I enjoy this but many of the questions should be posted on the forum. That is what it is there for. I can only give you an opinion, or point you in the right direction, not legal advice. A question posted on the forum will be alot more help than a question emailed just to me. Give it a go.
Any donations you can forward on would be greatly appreciated. Any person or organisation that donates $20 or more will recieve a certificate of appreciation from LYINX.
Bank: ANZ
Name: LYINX
BSB: 012 615
ACC: 4879 32423
Email me your reference number so I can email you your certificate of appreciation.
Thanks again
Troy Paton